Telltale Signs You are Dealing With an Emotional Manipulator
2016-10-26 | It is precisely because emotional manipulation can be so destructive that it is important for you to recognize it in your own life. It is not as easy as you might think, because emotional manipulators are typically very skillful. They start out with subtle manipulation and raise the stakes over time, so slowly that you dont even realize it is happening. Fortunately, emotional manipulators are easy enough to spot if you know what to look for. Read more
What is divorce mediation?
2015-07-09 | Divorce mediation is an out-of-court dispute-resolution tool that helps people settle their differences sensibly and with the legal system having only minimal involvement.
It provides a structured process that minimizes the defensiveness and friction that are normally present during spousal settlement conversations. It does this by creating a non-confrontational atmosphere that encourages the spouses to put their best foot forward when they are presenting their thoughts and concerns to one another.Read more
What Exactly Is “The Best Interest of the Child”?
2016-08-24 | For every need of children there is a corresponding responsibility. I suggest that a new approach, a responsibility-to-needs orientation to children’s best interests, is vital to the future well-being of children of separation and divorce. And it is the responsibility of social institutions such as the courts to support parents in the fulfillment of their parenting responsibilities to their children’s needs, and not to undermine them, which is exactly what is happening to children within the present adversarial, “winner-take-all” approach. Read more
How Passive Aggression Hurts Children
2016-10-09 | For many couples, holding onto a grudge - smoldering but not letting a disagreement erupt into a fighting match - may seem like the best way to deal with a conflict. But research shows this kind of discord can significantly interfere with a child’s behavior and sense of emotional security. When exposed to prolonged unresolved conflict, kids are more likely to get into fights with their peers at school and show signs of distress, anger, and hostility. They may also have trouble sleeping at night, which can undermine their academic performance. In fact, according to various studies that measured children’s emotional responses to interparental hostility, disengagement and uncooperative discord between couples has shown to increase a child’s risk of psychological problems, including depression, anxiety, social withdrawal, and aggression.Read more
Troubled Parent-Child Relationships and Parental Alienation
2016-09-21 | As a counselor, I believe the research and methods for treating children, adolescents, and young adults, who irrationally reject a parent, have and continue to make great strides forward. Even in light of all of our progress, we continue to have a long way to progress in treating children who are estranged and alienated from one or more family members. Read more