How Children Cope with High Conflict Divorce: How are they harmed and what can parents do to help them?
2015-08-17 | Children are trained erroneously through this process that all conflict is a must to avoid. They learn to strategize as a way to get their needs met. For instance a child is aware that his mother does not want him to take any martial arts classes because she fears they will cause him to be violent. The child knows that the mom is worried that dad will try to enroll him in violent activities. The child then convinces dad to enroll him in a class that teaches how to be safe without using violence. Read more
What is divorce mediation?
2015-07-09 | Divorce mediation is an out-of-court dispute-resolution tool that helps people settle their differences sensibly and with the legal system having only minimal involvement.
It provides a structured process that minimizes the defensiveness and friction that are normally present during spousal settlement conversations. It does this by creating a non-confrontational atmosphere that encourages the spouses to put their best foot forward when they are presenting their thoughts and concerns to one another.Read more
Divorce the right way
2015-06-21 | It is important to remember that you have two options or ways to get divorced. Almost like picking up a bow and arrow, aiming and shooting once the arrow leaves the bow, it is very hard to change its direction. Keep in mind that if you break the other parent emotionally and or financially in court, your children (and family system) will be negatively affected, same applies if the other parent breaks you. If one or both parents spend every cent they have to pay for the divorce, no money will be left to look after your children and your family system. If you decide to litigate, it will be much harder to get into a co-parenting environment – please do not cut your nose to spite your children.Read more
Respect Your Children and Yourself
2015-08-30 | Kids learn by imitation, and just demonstrating respectful behavior will take you a long way. The basic rule is: You get what you give. Sound familiar? Some call it the Golden Rule, and some call it karma, but the idea is the same: Treat your child as you would like to be treated and your child (eventually and usually) will treat you that way back.
Parental Alienation Syndrome — The Parent/Child Disconnect
2015-06-09 | While some social workers may be unaware of the name for this particular phenomenon, they have probably dealt with it over the course of their careers. For example, clients may enter individual therapy presenting with anxiety, depression, or relationship problems and later reveal that they have been cut off from one parent by another parent. These clients may be unaware of the meaning of the lost relationship and may even minimize its effect on their growth, development, and current mental health concerns.Read more